Your daughter needs to be empowered and know that she has her own voice - one that includes speaking firmly instead of yelling. 'I don't like the snake hissing in my face.' You're right there to help them through their communication right now and come to a comprimise. Then repeat what she said (or modify it) and tell her she needs to tell her brother just that. Pull her aside and ask her to describe the problem. Why are you being her voice? What is she going to do when you are not around? Scream endlessly? Feel helpless? I'd suggest getting down on their level. Any advice appreciated, I can use all the help I can get! I am sick of the screaming from dd and sick of the disrespect from ds. Am I expecting too much? The situation today was mild compared to some but I just can't think of another example to illustrate right now. He is 6.5 and she is 3.5.she cannot be reasoned with like he can and I feel I have the right to expect him to be considerate of me. What my question is-is it unrealistic of me to expect him to just STOP?!! So the morning deteriorates and I end up angry and punishing and just not having the kind of day I want to have. I finally just plead with him to stop it for MY sake!!! Dear son, even if you can't stop yourself from bugging her because its the right thing to do, can you just stop doing it because I am asking you to? So we go upstairs, she follows, he brings the snake and keeps on bugging her with it. I even offer to play a game with him upstairs and let dd do her own thing downstairs, since it is not fun to play with someone who screams either. I say, I know, but she doesn't like it and its not really playing when it's bothering the other person for whatever reason. He says he's not doing anything wrong, he's just playing. So, I say to ds that it seems to me that she doesn't like it and could he please stop. I am also 9 months pregnant, better throw that in! I know I'm tired, short on patience, etc. Ds had his toy snake and was making it hiss at his sister, she didn't want him to and was screaming 'stop it' (she was not scared, she just didn't want him to be doing it, it wasn't part of her script for what she was playing.) But it wasn't happening, so I came down to see if I could assist.

Sometimes I just wait a bit and let them see if they can compromise, work it out themselves. It borders on ridiculous!įor example, today they were playing downstairs and within a few minutes, I hear the fighting begin. My 3.5 yo dd is a screamer too-if her brother is bothering her, she just screams her head off. They are both very 'strong-willed' and they both want to always be in charge when playing. My two children cannot seem to get along.

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